by Lisa Brick | Dec 22, 2012 | Blog, Choice, Finding Freedom, holidays, Navigating Life, Relationships
In a few days we will be celebrating Christmas. We will be with family we haven’t seen for a while as well as family we see every day. Some of us will be without family we used to have who have passed on, moved away and aren’t able to make it back, or dropped out from fall out. When you have an accumulation of people you have an accumulation of energies. We used to call these “personalities” yet they are really much more than that. We are affected and affect each other in three ways: we feel neutral, we feel some level of uneasiness, or we feel affirmed and relaxed. We even flip around through all three with the same person depending upon the conversation and our reactions to what is either said or not, done or not, and how it was said and done. The holidays and the energies they bring to us are an opportunity to practice how to learn to generate the very peace, beauty, and love with which we yearn to be filled.
There is a tool, the MIFR, which when utilized can support you in creating the wonderful “feeling experience” of the Christmas of your dreams. The MIFR consists of of four steps: mindfulness, inquiry, focus, and reframing. Whereas the Swiffer is a tool with which to clean a floor, the MIFR is a tool to wash clean the thoughts, feelings, and actions that lead to uneasiness, anger, resentment, and upset and allows us to dance on the newly cleaned surface. While to be expert at using this tool takes practice, even as a novice you can wipe away a great deal of gunk.
Here’s an example of how MIFR works. Aunt Sally comes in with a one way conversation all about what’s ailing her. She doesn’t ask about you or the kids. When she looks around she makes a comment about how you haven’t replaced that worn chair in the living room yet. You become mindful that you are feeling smoke escaping from your ears. You are experiencing a set-up. She’s stuck being Aunt Sally but you aren’t stuck in the set-up anymore. You have a choice. You inquire of yourself what other responses you can choose from since she’s there with her self absorption and complaints and will be the entire evening. Shift your focus on what you want for this Christmas; peace, love, and joy. Aunt Sally may not be able to shift her energy yet YOU CAN. It’s like a Nike ad, JUST DO IT, even if your mind is telling you you don’t know how. She can remain just as she is and as she isn’t and that energy can roll off you like water off a duck’s back. You can feel her energy and leave her to it. Simply by not responding to her in kind is showering grace. You don’t have to and can’t fix her. She doesn’t need to be fixed, just allowed to be who she is free of your judgment and resentment. When you free her from it, you have freed yourself from being stuck in feelings that dampen or ruin your Christmas! Now you can reframe the story and keep centered in the Christmas of your heart. You can even look at Aunt Sally, smile, and tell her that is your very favorite chair and invite her to experience how comfortable it is, while you walk away to greet the next soul at the gathering in peace, love, and joy. THIS IS POSSIBLE. THIS IS HOW TO HAVE THE CHRISTMAS OF YOUR DREAMS, by being what you desire.
The specific steps of MIFRing are:
- MINDFULNESS – As you become mindful of an upset (a set-up you’ve fallen into time and time again) coming on, recognize that when you feel energy/attitude coming at you, THEY aren’t doing it “to you”. You are doing it to yourself in the face of an external trigger.
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- INQUIRY – Assume responsibility for how you are feeling and see what story you are telling yourself in the presence of this energy.
- FOCUS – Remember that your objective is to be peace, love, and joy. What other’s say, hear, and emanate is about them. What you hear, say, and emanate is about you
- REFRAME – Listen with awareness rather than judgment. Tell yourself a new story which will lead to positive feelings towards yourself, the others, and your environment, and take creative empowering actions.
A note to those serious about truly enjoying the holidays this year, treat yourself well with sleep and nourishing foods consistently, being conscious that both sweets and alcohol in quantity dulls awareness and can lead to serious “sugar blues”.
“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. … We need not wait to see what others do.”.
– Mahatma Gandhi
A blessed Christmas to everyone of every faith and non-faith.
by Lisa Brick | Dec 20, 2012 | Blog, Choice, Loyalty, Navigating Life, Relationships
My marketplace philosophy is to choose a provider or vendor, respect their efforts, appreciate their products or services, and, when the product serves my purposes and the service is responsive and effective, stay with them despite lower cost offers for the same or similar products and services. At times I have wondered if my approach, staying with a company out of loyalty of quality and responsiveness, is old fashioned or foolish in this marketplace of discount and price competition. My suspicion is that fishing for the lowest price for any product or service, while appearing to be a ‘bargain’, is in fact a marathon to the bottom for our economy as a whole. While I dilute my buying power with loyalty, I also concentrate my personal integrity, knowing that I am supporting my fellow humans with fair wages and benefits. I also experience a reduction in hassle. When people are rewarded fairly for their efforts they are generally happier and more apt to invest themselves in their work. Philosophy and doubts aside, in the past week I have experienced unanticipated rewards for loyalty.
We refinanced our home twice in the past three years with Marc Demetriou of RH Funding as interest rates sank. After the last refi I swore off doing it again, even if the rates dropped further. While refinancing saves money in the long run it comes with a significant upfront cost. On Thursday last I received an email from Marc informing me that the rates were at all time lows and was I interested in refinancing at no cost. NO COST. What? Did I read that correctly? So I wrote back, asked what our new monthly payment would be and did I read it right that there was NO COST? What did he mean by NO COST? He clarified that there would be absolutely no cost for his customers to refinance at this time. No cost and no gimmick. His shared that his year was great, he had accumulated a significant amount of credit from the banks he’d worked with, and was passing those credits on to his repeat customers as a thank you for their business. My application is in. Should it be accepted it will allow us increased financial flexibility. Honestly, I did not think that offers like this happened.
Today while I was futzing around with Facebook for the first time I received a call from Cablevision. They were thanking me for being a loyal customer for the past many years and wanted to know if there was anything they could do for us. Hmmm. “We’re OK” I thought. I shared that I tend to be a loyal customer and told the woman that we have stayed with Cablevision although I regularly get offers from Verizon that are considerable lower that what I am currently paying, at least for the first year. She asked me to hold on while she checked what she could do for me. I hadn’t asked for anything. When she returned she had arranged a promotion saving us $600 in 2013, after which charges would return to the 2012 level. I thought this remarkable. I appreciate it immensely. How lovely!
Lastly, and more about store loyalty to customer than customer loyalty, my daughter purchased a down coat from Burberry six years ago. During the second season she wore it she noticed that the fabric on the sleeves was wearing unevenly and quite differently from the rest of the coat. When she showed the wear to the store they immediately apologized and replaced the coat. Two years later, the new coat showed an odd pattern of wear. Again, an apology was offered, as well as a second replacement coat. My daughter lives in India now and has no need for a winter coat so here we are, six years after the original purchase, and I am appreciating the warmth and styling of this wonderful coat which keeps me toasty. It doesn’t seem to be wearing at all!
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It is said that we pay to play. Perhaps the price we pay, otherwise stated as the investment we make in people, places, and things, determines the quality of the play. Investing in the companies and individuals that serve us well by giving fairly for what we receive may ultimately be the optimal route to the greatest satisfaction for all involved. I choose to consider my spending as investing in the products and services that aide my life and the people that make it possible. That’s system loyalty and it’s rewarding, in the marketplace and beyond!
by Lisa Brick | Dec 13, 2012 | Blog, Choice, Finding Freedom
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“Congratulations!
Today is your day.
You are off to Great Places!
You are off and away!
You have the brains in your head.
You have the feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.
You’re on your own. And you know what you know.
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Recognizing our ability to choose and the power that comes from it can have a dizzying effect. Too much choice overwhelms us. The plethora of choices available is perhaps the very reason individuals limit their beliefs, hold on to assumptions and interpretations, and ultimately limit themselves. As a coach I find myself facilitating my clients to identify and focus on their deep inner values and objectives when assessing multiple options from which to make choices. When the drivers of choice are at the level of the core values we hold, the process of choosing is simpler.
Once a destination is set, the route to get there is more obvious. There may still be a number of options to choose from yet if they all lead to the desired destination, the significance of which to choose lessens significantly. Rather than getting lost in the choosing process, the destination becomes the determining factor and the route is one of confidence, even when detours are discovered on the way. The primary choice becomes the integral outcome desired according to these deep drivers. The secondary choice becomes the route traveled. Oh the places you’ll go!
by Lisa Brick | Dec 8, 2012 | Blog, Finding Freedom, Navigating Life, Opening our Doors of Perception
I am often asked “What is coaching?” This morning, as I picked up a book that was highly recommended by friend and coach Robin Sampson of First Circle Leaders http://firstcircleleaders.webs.com, I came upon a poem by Hafiz, a 14th century Persian mystic and poet. While the poem certainly is not speaking of coaching but a possible relationship with the divine, there is much here that a sensitive and committed coach supports a client to do for themselves in their own time, with total loving kindness. Enjoy…
Tired of Speaking Sweetly
Love wants to reach out and manhandle us,
Break all our teacup talk of G-d.
If you had the courage and
Could give the Beloved His choice, some nights,
He would just drag you around the room
By your hair,
Ripping from your grip all those toys in the world
That bring you no joy.
Love sometimes gets tired of speaking sweetly
And wants to rip to shreds
All your erroneous notions of truth.
That make you fight with yourself, dear one,
And with others,
Causing the world to weep
On too many fine days.
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God wants to manhandle us,
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The Beloved sometimes wants
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Hold up upside down
And shake all the nonsense out.
But when we hear
He is in such a “playful drunken mood”
Most everyone I know
Quickly packs their bags and hightails it
Out of town.
When will you be staying in town?
by Lisa Brick | Nov 26, 2012 | Adjusting to Change, Finding Freedom, Opening our Doors of Perception
Thanksgiving has come and gone yet the opportunity for giving thanks for our blessings remains. Giving thanks for our blessings, an easy enough concept, yes? We are understandably thankful for good health, prosperity, and happiness for ourselves and those we care about, when life shows up as we plan, and when misfortune passes us by, yet this is half of what the experience that life in its fullness exposes us to.
We and those we love also get sick, die, loose jobs , see businesses falter and sometimes fail, and experience disappointment, fear, and betrayal. What about this half of life? How is it possible to experience gratitude for the shadow aspect of being alive, and if we did, how would that change our experience of this other half of life? The following is an old Taoist folktale, providing one route to seeing the shadow in the light and the light in the shadow, rounding out the possibility for gratitude.
“A man who lived on the northern frontier of China had a unique way of interpreting events. One day, for no apparent reason, his son’s mare ran away. Everyone tried to console him, but the father said, “What makes you so sure this isn’t a blessing?” The neighbors thought him crazy. Some months later the mare returned, bringing with it a splendid nomad stallion. Everyone congratulated him, yet his father said, “What makes you so sure this isn’t a disaster?” Again, the neighbors thought him odd. The father and son’s household was richer by a fine horse, which the son loved to ride. One day the son fell and broke his hip. Everyone tried to console him, but the father asked once again, “What makes you so sure this isn’t a blessing?” By now the neighbors simply shrugged, unable to figure out what was with this old man.
A year later the nomads came in force across the border, and every able-bodied man took his bow and went into battle. Because the son was lame he was not able to join the fighting and stayed at home working the fields. The Chinese frontiersmen lost nine of every ten men. The father and son survived, taking care of each other and eventually helping to build the village up again. The old man’s equanimity in meeting circumstances proved to be an odd and crazy wisdom.
Truly, what we deem a blessing can lead to disaster, and disaster to blessing: the changes have no end. It is impossible to truly know which is which. The mystery of life is unfathomable. “
This is not to say that the challenges and difficulties we experience need be celebrated. It is to say that unanticipated and unwanted change, however dark and painful, contains the possibility of light and growth and when we are able to keep this in mind, we begin to introduce light and open ourselves to embracing growth in all the places we find ourselves.
Here are some personal examples of gratitude that flow out of such an approach:
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Thank you for disease for it taught me that this life is precious and to appreciate being here now.
Thank you for those who express anger in my direction for they teach me how to stay in my heart, to communicate more effectively, to see others’ perspectives, and to remain true to my values in the face of dissatisfaction.
Thanks for my sins for they teach me how off the mark I am and lead me back home.
Thank you for my failures for they teach me to find new roads to travel upon my path to accomplishment.
Thank you for decay for it allows life to recycle its raw materials.
Thank you for my cesarean section for it allowed me to live and continue to be here for my child.
Thank you for the storm so I could experience the immense kindness of others and, when the time came, to give it back.
Thank you for the ability to feel pain, express myself, and heal.
Thank you for the rain and the cold for they allow me to relish the dryness and warmth.
In this light, what might you add to your list to experience full circle gratitude?
by Lisa Brick | Nov 12, 2012 | Blog, Opening our Doors of Perception
This illustrative story of the “Blind Men and the Elephant” is a many-layered parable about individual limitation and ego.
Three blind men came to an elephant. They were told that it was an elephant. The blind men asked, “What is the elephant like?” and began to touch its body. One of them said: “It is like a pillar.” This blind man had touched its leg. Another touched its ears and said, “The elephant is like a husking basket.” A third touched the elephant’s trunk and said, “It is like a giant snake.” The men walked away arguing as to which one was right.
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We need each other to grasp the nature of our collective reality if we are to innovate collective solutions to family, societal, and global issues. We have the capacity to listen to a myriad of perspectives and choose new ways to perceive that lift us together and allow for new and more rewarding ways forward. Any one of us can do this, and, when we do, it changes the dynamic for us all.
by Lisa Brick | Nov 12, 2012 | Adjusting to Change, Blog
Sandy’s gone yet the chaos left in its wake continues to reverberate in our lives. We have all lost something. At worst, lives have been lost. At best, we’ve lost a sense of security. In between, we’ve lost homes, income, cars, trees, sleep, ease of transportation, comfort, food, and chunks of our sanity. How do we find peace and a semblance of order knowing how vulnerable our lives are to powers beyond our control?
I offer the following admonition as a vehicle for peace and a semblance of order during this and any time of upheaval;
“Talk to yourself in two languages – what do I fear and what do I love – in order to balance ….” —Peter Shepherd
Some facts, whether we like them or not:
1. What we fear has happened.
2. It will happen again, what with climate change and unusually consistent extreme weather.
3. Weather events are beyond our control.
4. Severe weather events bring up understandable fear and have the capability of causing real and lasting damage.
When we become mindful of our fears we can begin to assess what it is we love that may be at risk. When we focus on what we love we can begin to design actions capable of protecting what we love given the information available. For instance, most of us love a heated home in cold weather. If our heat source depends on electric, what back up systems can we institute if we know our electric can be knocked out? Pursuing options may include back up generators, ensuring there is wood accessible for a fireplace/wood stove, installing a gas fireplace, identifying family or friends nearby that would host you should they have backups and you don’t or can’t for whatever reason, etc.
Although weather events are outside of our control, our readiness and ability to respond efficiently and effectively is very much within our control. What we love is a powerful motivator to shift our focus from what we can’t to what we can affect. Doing this, we regain our power to direct out lives, even when our lives are impacted by forces beyond our control.
When it comes to nature disrupting our lives there are steps we can take in advance to protect what we love and ameliorate the impact of what we can’t control. What follows are some suggestions to do just that while maximizing our time, money, and sanity:
1. Purchase a supply of dried and canned foods, candles, matches, flashlights, batteries and water.
2. Have a solar, crank, and battery powered emergency radio in your dwelling.
3. Follow the directions given by the police and other health agencies, evacuating when and where directed.
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6. Purchase ice or fill and freeze plastic containers of water to maintain cold in your refrigerator/freezer for a few extra days.
7. If you evacuate to a hotel, bring easy to prepare and non-perishable foods and a cooler. You will be able to make sandwiches, serve cereal, snack, and eat fresh fruits and veggies (carrots, celery, peppers, tomatoes, etc.) for a time regardless of the external conditions. It will also prevent you from having to use your gasoline to search for food.
8. Locate and have on hand crayons, pens, pencils, paper, art supplies books for reading and storytelling, board games, toys and other entertainment for all ages that doesn’t require electricity.
9. Establish a communication plan with friends and family with whom you want to stay in touch. Have a car charger and back up storage battery to keep your mobile phones operable. Decide in advance what communication venues: phone, text, email, are realistic and possible.
10. If you evacuate to a hotel, find out about their plan for hotel guests should the power go out. You may be safer at the hotel yet still without power if they have no backup or it fails.
11. Charge all electronic devices prior to the onset of the weather event.
12. Neaten up the house before the storm. Know where your supplies are. It’s not as easy to see or find necessary items when the lights go out.
13. Stock up on pet supplies.
14. Sign up for text alerts from your state emergency management center and local utility companies if they offer such programs.
15. Have a chunk of cash on hand in case the ATM’s and banks go down temporarily or merchant credit card terminals are inoperable.
16. If you must leave your house, leave a light that can be seen from outside on so friends and neighbors can check if your power is on from outside your house.
17. If you feel stuck inside or restless you can get a great workout and release stress by going up and down any stairs in the building. Exercise will help you think clearer and sleep more soundly.
18. Photograph any damage to your home, car or other property for insurance purposes.
19. Fill your car’s gas tank and a couple of large (proper, approved) gasoline containers in advance of the storm. Gas may be temporarily unavailable afterwards.
20. If you or a family member takes life preserving medications have at least a months supply on hand at all times. This need not be a man made crisis on top of a natural one!!!
Being prepared provides an immense sense of confidence and security and is totally achievable. Keep your focus on what you love.
by Lisa Brick | Oct 26, 2012 | Blog, Finding Freedom
We often feel locked out of accessing what we desire; that fulfilling relationship, that sense of security that we are capable and worthy, that our lives have meaning, that we can create a livelihood that will both support us financially and emotionally, that we can experience feeling well and being fit. Our ability to make our desires our experience is within each and every one of us. Where’s the combination or key that we can use to open the lock? How can we learn how to use it and gain access to that ability?
Consider the mechanism of a lock. While the release is designed within the lock itself, it requires an external force to activate the internal position that creates the opening. The external mechanism is two fold; a combination or a key AND a person who knows how to use it and who wants to get what’s inside.
Depending upon the complexity of a lock and what it is intended to protect, it will have varying levels of alignments in order to open. A padlock not only has a combination of numbers which create such an alignment one position at a time, the positions must be approached from a specific direction (right or left) for the lock to release. Unlocking ourselves is similarly complex yet achievable with concerted intention and effort.
Mindfulness, inquiry, focus, and reframing how we interpret experience to enliven ourselves and open possibility is a foolproof combination to open our inherent abilities to create the lives we desire. How do we use this combination to gain access to that which is already inside of us?
Be mindful of where you feel stuck or consistently hitting your head against a preverbal wall. If there are many areas tease them out one at a time so you can look at each area individually. Listen to what you are telling yourself about the first specific situation you are looking to transform.
Inquire how what you are telling yourself could be a mental distortion of the situation. See if it is an non-truth. Ask yourself how your body feels when you listen to that thought as if it were TRUTH.
Focus on what it is you truly want in the situation.
Reframe how you perceive the situation and what you tell yourself in a way that will lead you towards what you desire, and act upon this new perception.
Becoming proficient at using this combination is neither simple nor effortless, just as opening any lock necessitates remembering what the combination is, understanding how to use it effectively, and actually utilizing it. Here’s how one individual used it very effectively:
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John is a smart and capable person so he was able to pull this off for a long time. His strategy worked until he wanted to become part of an organization. He found that he was having a hard time fitting in. He bluffed his way through, pretending to know what he didn’t. Ultimately he was fired for putting the organization at risk by his incapacity to ask for necessary and appropriate assistance.
Here’s how he used the combination to unlock his hidden abilities:
Mindfulness: John became mindful that the thought “I have to figure everything out for myself” was creating havoc in his professional life. He felt like a phony, stressed and vulnerable, when he pretended to know what he didn’t.
Inquiry: John asked himself how the idea that he could not ask for help was non-truth. He saw that by not asking for help situations had blown up in his face and that his strategy was neither keeping him safe nor employed.
Focus: He identified what he did want which was to be able to ask and receive help and assistance from others as well as offer help and assistance to others while feeling confident within himself.
Reframe: John changed the message he was telling himself to “I need help at times and it’s ok.” His reframe has created a greater sense of relaxation around his levels of competency and incompetency. Incompetency has become an opportunity for learning and greater competency!
John is very comfortable working within organizations now. He has become an organizational leader in many domains.
Please feel free to use this combination, MIFR, the Swiffer for the mind to unlock your abilities. To build competency using the MIFR read more of our blogs, join our groups, and consider one-on-one coaching. MIFR your way to what you desire.
by Lisa Brick | Sep 7, 2012 | Blog, Finding Freedom, Navigating Life, Opening our Doors of Perception, Success
During coaching sessions it is often evident that my clients’ minds and bodies are in different time zones, especially during periods of greatest discomfort emotionally. Their minds are either in the past or the future, experiencing upset about what has happen or what will happen, while their bodies are in the present moment experiencing anxiety and an incapability to take effective action. While the mind can “time travel”, the body lives always and in all ways in the present moment. Actionable steps, of which the mind is the architect and the body the general contractor and construction crew, are only possible in the present. As long as the body and mind remain in different time zones the body is stuck, anxious, and impotent, unable to take effective action. Instead of the mind/body being “here now” consciously and creatively taking action they are “nowhere” being ineffectual.
When the mind is grounded and centered in the present, it is aware of what it is doing. When grounded and centered in the present it is either seeking clarity regarding what it desires or, having reached clarity of its goals and objectives, designing strategies that work in harmony with the bodies’ ability to take action in a grounded, balanced, and centered manner. The present is the only time zone in which the mind can manifest creative action through the body, in a succession of single actions, one by one, here and now. The present is also the only time zone where together, mind and body can harvest, enjoy, and truly relax into the bounty it created.
How is it possible to bring the mind and body into the same time zone, especially when surrounded by situations of duality and chaos? Infinitely, with practice. A simple and highly effective way is to mentally note one’s breath and its consequences. The following is an exercise you can play with and choose to practice any time you notice your mind and body are in different time zones:
On your next breath, notice the sensations that occur as you breathe in and out. On your inhale, how do your nostrils feel as the air passes in? Do they spread or quiver? Does the air feel warm, cool, or neutral as it enters and touches your temperature sensors? Where do you feel the sensation? Are your sinuses clear? How does your throat feel as the air passes through on its way to your lungs? What happens to your chest cavity as you inhale and your lungs fill? Or perhaps you notice that your lungs aren’t filling, that you are taking little sips of air and your chest is barely moving. Play with your breath. As you breathe in more deeply or less deeply, what happens to those small muscles that assist your rib cage to shape-shift? What do you feel when you breathe out? Is the air the same temperature as when it entered? How does your rib cage change? What message are your receiving from your body, if any, are you becoming aware of as your focus enters the present moment and joins your body? Do you feel vitality in your body, tiredness, a sensation of pain somewhere, pleasure, or perhaps various sensations in varying areas? Simply notice your always present partner in life, your body. Notice you are together now, in the same time and place, the present moment here and now. How do you feel differently now that you are all in one time zone?
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by admin | Aug 17, 2012 | Blog
I received the following email today. It was written after an evening invested with a friend suffering the slings and arrows of separation and the divorce process. After returning home, the reflections, projections, and pain that had been shared inspired the following insights:
“After our talk about the nature of reality – past, present and future, an image came to me as I was laying in bed. I’m standing in a shallow river with a moving current and the question that arose was, “Where and when is the water touching me?” And the answer that came to me of course is “The water that is touching me is here — and when it’s touching me is now”.
I admit that I haven’t fully grasped the concepts that I am expressing and therefore may not be as lucid in my sharing as I would like to be. Please bear with me.
I’m not denying that the water downstream didn’t touch me or doesn’t exist – and I’m not denying that there is water upstream heading my way that will have some impact on me — but the water that I’m experiencing right now can only be, and has always been, and always will be the water that is here right at this moment.
This analogy is also showing me that I can’t do anything about the downstream water – it has already passed me by. And I can’t do much about the upstream water – when it gets to me it will be colder or warmer, rougher or calmer, but the concept that I can really control it seems far-fetched.
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In any case, what this does is point to the present — right now, today. And the question then is, who do I want to be right now and today? What do I want to create? And can I bring compassion and “loving-kindness” to this moment to bring happiness and piece of mind to me and others around me at this moment.
Perceiving life thus provides a way for me to disentangle myself from the past that I can’t alter and the future, much or all of which is beyond my control.
That way I can step outside of the world of “attachment” or being “hooked” as Pema Chodrun (http://pemachodronfoundation.org/) calls it, attached to regret over what happened in the past or hope, worry, or fear that the future will not pan out the way I think it ought to.
I don’t want to live my life in the world of regret, fear, resentment, hope and longing. I want to “be here now” so I can appreciate the water for what it is, right now, right here. When I can do this, I always realize the same thing – the water’s fine.”
“Welcome the present moment as if you had invited it. It is all we ever have so we might as well work with it rather than struggling against it. We might as well make it our friend and teacher rather than our enemy.” – Pema Chodron
I found my focus on a deeper level, what really moved and inspired me, which made choosing possible. Working with Lisa has given me the clarity and focus to move forward in my life and understand my role in the creation of my reality. ”
